Category: Let's talk
Hello,
I was thinking about something awhile ago, and I thoght I'd share my thoughts...
Ok, so What if a totally blind person and someone ihn a wheelchair fell in love, is it possible for them to be married? I mean, if this person needed help to do some or most of daily life's tasks? I'm not trying to sound rude, or prejiduce, or anything, so please, don't take it that way, thanks, Ray! PS have a great day/evening!
That would be interesting. (Not trying to sound rude either.) But yeah, I think it would be possible for a blind and wheelchair user to live together. The blind person could help in things the wheelchair user couldn't do on their own, and if he/she loved that person, they of course should be fine with that most of the time. Now if the wheelchair user needed to be pushed, I'm not sure how that would work. I'm honestly trying to figure that one out as well, since I'm interested in working with students with multiple disabilities.
we are taking some things for granted. First of all you never said that the person in the wheel chair was blind. A blind person doesn't need eyes to push someone if that someone can see. Second, give your self a little more credit. Really there's not much we as blind persons can't do. If we had to we could dress, transport from wheel chair to bed or other chair we could baith, heck we could even change bags. someone in a wheel chair is as independant as someone who is blind.
Agreed, DF. I certainly wouldn't let the fact that my lover is in a wheelchair stop me from loving and wanting to marry him. Things might be a little difficult at first but I enjoy a chalenge!
*sexy*
exactly, that's considered discrimination if you let their disability get in the way...its the same as saying, "should blind people be able to marry since they can't see well"? *shrugs*
I think that anyone can marry anyone else if that’s what they want and that’s how they feel, no disability should prevent two people who love each other from being together. However, I do think that in certain situations people should go into a relationship with their eyes open. For instance, if you were to marry someone who is in a wheelchair, how independent is that person, do they need carers to help them perform certain daily tasks for instance? And if so, having someone coming into your home on a daily basis could be somewhat intrusive and would take some getting used to. Alternatively you could take over the care of your partner if that was what you wanted to do, but I think that could cause problems of its own. After all, if you marry someone you become equal partners in the relationship, if that equal partner were then to become your carer, I think that could lead to certain feelings of inadequacy on the part of the severely disabled partner, and even feelings of resentment from the partner who is then the carer, after all, even the best relationships have their down times, and it would be hard sometimes to not resent someone you had to care for 24-7, even if it wasn’t intentional resentment. If the person you were married was severely disabled, they might also have other problems, in terms of their ability to perform in certain aspects of the relationship, and this too might lead to long term issues, after all, it’s one thing to think you can spend the rest of your life in a sexless relationship, but quite another to follow it through. We all have needs, and even the most dedicated of us would potentially be frustrated if not able to have a full relationship with a partner.
Even two people who are totally blind would have problems if they were to marry, not serious ones, but little things, like not being able to go on holiday on their own for instance, but those are small issues really.
I am by no means saying though that you couldn’t marry someone in a wheelchair if you loved them, no disability should prevent anyone from being with the person they love, not ever, but one should go into the marriage prepared for everything that is thrownat you.
Ohh for christs sake..why should these people not be allowed the same rights as non disabled people.
Dragonfire I completely agree and I cannot believe someone would be ignorant enough to believe otherwise..
I don't think anyone was implying that someone with a disability shouldn't have the right to be married, I think the issue was more about whether it would create any problems, and one does have to be realistic, there would be practical implications, even for a totally able-bodied person who wanted to marry someone with a severe disability. That does not mean however that it can't and doesn't happen, anyone who loves someone else should be able to marry them if that's what they both want :)